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\"Jaye
Jaye Brewer and her son Chozen. She is now working toward her bachelor\u2019s degree in creative writing at Southern New Hampshire University.<\/figcaption><\/figure>
\"Jaye
Jaye Brewer, born in a Massachusetts state prison to a single mother who sold and used drugs, has dealt with the consequences of substance use since then.<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/figure>

Jaye Brewer looks tired during a Zoom meeting with me, tending to her newborn son, Chozen. The chips have been stacked against her from the very start.<\/p>\n

In 1992, she was born in a Massachusetts state prison to a single mother who sold and used drugs throughout Massachusetts and New Hampshire. Her home life consisted of moving around with her mother and younger sister.<\/p>\n

\u201cPretty much, I was involved in the fast life at a very early age. I would be with my mom as she made pick-ups and drop-offs. I remember her renting out rooms to drug dealers. That was normal for me as a child.\u201d Jaye says.<\/p>\n

At 10 years old, Jaye says she knew enough to hide crack pipes and drug paraphernalia when police knocked at their door.<\/p>\n

Although her mother was involved in the drug trade, she always instilled that Jaye do better, to be better. Nevertheless, Jaye remembers two of her sisters being taken by the state and put into foster homes. Her mother eventually left Boston for fear that the state would take Jaye and her remaining siblings.<\/p>\n

Despite everything, Jaye believes she had a good life as a child.<\/p>\n

Jaye\u2019s relationship with her father was spotty at best. Their relationship mainly depended on him giving her money.<\/p>\n

Jaye bottle-fed Chozen as she thought about her dad.<\/p>\n

\u201cOK, I\u2019ll say this. Sometimes, I feel as if I were the product of prostitution. My father was decades older than my mom. My dad was 89 when he died, and he was about 50 years older than my mother. I guess he wanted to marry my mom, but she was too involved in the fast life.\u201d<\/p>\n

In 2004, Jaye, then 12, was in North Carolina with family, and her mother was in a Virginia prison. In It was in North Carolina when she began hanging out on the streets with her cousins. It was there that she began her first use of marijuana and running the streets, and she started to love it, she says.<\/p>\n

Her mother began calling from prison only to find out that although Jaye\u2019s dad would send money to Jaye\u2019s caretakers, the money was being used for the caretaker\u2019s children and not Jaye. She was shipped to New Hampshire to live with an aunt, who Jaye disliked.<\/p>\n

Jaye recalled the abuse. \u201cWe were not allowed to take showers, only baths. I was in 6th or 7th grade, and I knocked something over in the house and was beaten with a broomstick. I walked to school with a bloody lip \u2014 I wasn\u2019t allowed to take the bus.\u201d<\/p>\n

She says the transition was rough when her mother was released from prison and returned to New Hampshire. \u2028While in 7th or 8th grade, Jaye remembers walking a dark Manchester street, calling for her mother in front of groups of homeless people. Jaye\u2019s younger sister was scared, but Jaye didn\u2019t care \u2014 she just wanted to be with her mother.<\/p>\n

After months of off-and-on sobriety, Jaye\u2019s mother got pregnant with her youngest and felt she was too old to be a mother. Jaye begged her mother not to abort the pregnancy. In 2008, now 16, Jaye swore that she would be there for her sibling, ultimately taking on a maternal role. But at that same time, Jaye remembers drinking heavily, using marijuana, and often blacking out.<\/p>\n

She says her feelings toward her mother were, at times, hateful.<\/p>\n

\u201cI hated her for leaving. I remember asking her why she didn\u2019t snitch so she didn\u2019t have to go to jail,\u201d Jaye said.<\/p>\n

Jaye\u2019s mother had to tell her the realities of street code and that her snitching could ultimately put her children in danger from people who\u2019d want to harm them.<\/p>\n

Jaye was nearly 21 when she tried Percocet at parties. After a good friend of hers overdosed, Jaye noticed that she was the only one in her friend group still using drugs. A few weeks after using Percocet, Jaye made the climb up the opioid ladder and wound up experimenting with heroin, snorting it. Her mother, an intravenous drug user, made Jaye promise not to ever use needles like her. Jaye would keep that promise, only snorting or smoking heroin. Jaye had watched her mother inject heroin-filled liquid into her arms long enough to understand.<\/p>\n

Together, they\u2019d both smoke crack, use heroin, and sell drugs.<\/p>\n

Jaye\u2019s mother died in 2015. Around the time, Jaye spent three months in jail for stealing a pair of socks to keep her cold and wet feet warm.<\/p>\n

After an eviction, with her 8-year-old sister in tow, Jaye began a life of prostitution. After the first time selling her body, Jaye broke down in tears and showered. At that very moment, she didn\u2019t care about getting high or being sick. She knew that she\u2019d crossed a line. One that was hard to return from.<\/p>\n

But Jaye was sick of it.<\/p>\n

The fight for wellness<\/h2>\n

Naive about the world of detox and mental health counseling for substance misuse, Jaye believed that her fate was sealed. But her aunt, who lived in Boston and also<\/p>\n

struggled with substance use, told her about a drug program in the Mattapan section of the city. Before heading there, she sent her younger sister to stay with her other sister.<\/p>\n

Jaye left New Hampshire, and all she had was the clothes on her back and a purse.<\/p>\n

With no health insurance, Jaye had to bounce from clinics to programs to sober houses. After nearly four years of sobriety, while living in Lynn, Mass., Jaye\u2019s sister called her from New. Hampshire., saying that she was going to send their younger sibling into foster care because the responsibilities of caring for that child were overwhelming. Jaye relapsed and began running the streets of Lynn and Chelsea.<\/p>\n

She eventually made her way back to New Hampshire. Believing that she was sick from opioids, she went to a hospital and wound up in ICU for five days. Her lips were purple, she couldn\u2019t move, and she says it felt like she was on her deathbed. It turned out that Jaye was suffering from DKA \u2014 diabetic ketoacidosis.<\/p>\n

After being treated, Jaye ended up homeless and prostituting again in Manchester. She\u2019d lost her younger sister, she was urinating and defecating outside of her dealer\u2019s house, and she was in and out of johns\u2019 cars all day and night. Jaye remembers being on the street when her sister walked up to her with their youngest sister and dropped her off to Jaye. Jaye continued her life of prostitution and drugs with her younger sister by her side. Her dealer ultimately let her stay there to sleep on the couch with her sister.<\/p>\n

Another hospital trip showed that Jaye had a kidney infection. There for 15 days, she detoxed for a bit but then returned to what she knew. Jaye would have visitors sneak heroin into the hospital, and all the while, hospital staff believed she was sober. But after getting COVID-19, the nursing staff stopped her visitors, and Jaye was in trouble.<\/p>\n

With no one able to smuggle heroin into the hospital for her, she had no choice but to get sober. They tried sending Jaye home, but she didn\u2019t want to. She knew what she\u2019d do. The hospital was trying to get her into treatment. At 29, she eventually wound up in in Bonfire, 30-day substance use and behavioral health program program in Dover.<\/p>\n

\u201cI focused on the goal of improving my mental health there. I felt like it was mental health issues that always brought me back to using,\u201d Jaye said<\/p>\n

\u201cThat program forced me to find out who I was. I had to make the program work for me. It was there that I believed that I could stay sober. I don\u2019t have to use \u2014 I don\u2019t have to sell my body.\u201d Jaye said.<\/p>\n

Kali K. Guilmet-Talbot, is the executive director of Bonfire Behavioral Health, which offers outpatient services, individual therapy and groups. Their aftercare helps their caseload get into sober living, additional programming and wraparound support. Kali believes this work is important and also believes in the role that stigma plays. \u201cThey don\u2019t see the value of self and continue to suffer,\u201d Kali said.<\/p>\n

A lot of the staff at Bonfire used to be in recovery themselves, and this helps them with authenticity and making strides, Kali said. Their patients can see that life changes are attainable.<\/p>\n

\u201cWe try to give people a concept of life after use and what recovery looks like. This way, it\u2019s easier to move towards it. They can see that change is possible,\u201d Kali said.<\/p>\n

Jaye completed and graduated from the Bonfire program, immediately going home and getting rid of all of the drug paraphernalia from her home. Still, she struggled with thoughts of relapse and decided to get prescribed Suboxone for maintenance. After five months of sobriety, she found out she was pregnant.<\/p>\n

\u201cI didn\u2019t want to continue taking Suboxone and pass it on to my baby. But medical staff told me that I needed to continue for the sake of her child.\u201d Jaye said<\/p>\n

She and the father of the child had a volatile relationship, and one of Jaye\u2019s biggest fears came true. She knew she\u2019d wind up as a single mother.<\/p>\n

\u201cEveryone in my family is a single mother. There\u2019s nothing wrong with that, but it\u2019s a lot of struggle. But at that point, I didn\u2019t care \u2014 I didn\u2019t want my baby to grow up in a toxic environment, seeing me being abused.\u201d Jaye said.<\/p>\n

Although her child\u2019s father had a rough relationship with Jaye, she didn\u2019t think that she\u2019d be approaching motherhood all alone. At 29, Jaye says that she was lonely.<\/p>\n

\u201cI felt like everyone walked out of my life. No one stayed. I was in relationships where I was giving people all of my time, money and energy. And they\u2019d just walk out. When there was nothing left for me to give \u2014 they\u2019d be gone.\u201d<\/p>\n

That\u2019s when Jaye decided that she wanted to have a child, even as a single mother.<\/p>\n

\u201cI wanted someone who\u2019d choose me all of the time. Someone who\u2019s not going to leave when they felt like it or when things get hard,\u201d Jaye said.<\/p>\n

Jaye\u2019s present and future<\/h2>\n

Today, Jaye, who always loved reading and writing, is working towards her bachelor\u2019s degree in creative writing at Southern New Hampshire University.<\/p>\n

\u201cI want to continue telling my story. When speaking at meetings or in front of crowds, people always come up to me and say that my story was impactful and that I\u2019d changed their lives somehow.\u201d she says.<\/p>\n

And these days, she is being the best mom she can be while continuing her sobriety and education. Jaye has joined the news site Nashua Digital, where she has begun a blog,\u201cOne Hell of a Mother.\u201d<\/p>\n

I asked Jaye what it takes for her to navigate sobriety successfully.<\/p>\n

\u201cSupport \u2026 and I need to surround myself with sober people. I want to continue to level up in life, and I need to have my goals set and work towards a career. Something to leave my son.\u201d Jaye said<\/p>\n

I asked Jaye where she saw herself a year from now.<\/p>\n

\u201cI want to walk across the SNHU stage with my son. I want to be a published writer. I want to be working on a memoir or my first novel. I want to be a good mom, sober and happy. Whatever that looks like for me.\u201d<\/p>\n

She has a more optimistic outlook on life and focuses on creating a better future rather than being held back by her past.<\/p>\n

Her social media feed had young Chozen dressed to impress for his first Thanksgiving Day meal with his doting mother. Both are dressed in similar colors. The background photo is a picture of Jaye\u2019s mom holding a small dog with a huge smile on her face.<\/p>\n

Jaye believes her mother would be proud of where she is today. \u201cShe\u2019d say that I was a good mother and that she knew I\u2019d be successful,\u201d Jaye said.<\/p>\n

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